Wednesday, July 22, 2009
Luck
Seriously, where is my luck these few months????
Haiz... I just feel that luck hasn't been on my side these few months, especially since my paternal grandmother moved in to stay with my family since end of April.
This will so be a long post I guess.
I have been wanting to vent my frustrations on my paternal grandmother's attitude on this blog for weeks but I have always been holding back but now I just can't stand it.
On Sunday night she actually told my mother that my parents are bad guys cause they tie her up on the bed. Given the fact that you guys don't know the situation I am sure you guys think that my parents are cruel too but let me tell you the story before you judge.
Since I was young I already knew that my paternal grandmother is biased. Since I have memory, she has always been staying with my father's younger brother's family. She has always doted on her younger son that's why when my uncle's wife asked her to move in with them to look after the kids for her after she gave birth, my paternal grandmother agreed. For 20 odd years she had been staying with them.
A couple of years ago they said that my paternal grandmother has Alzheimer. Slowly she started to forget a lot of things and even the ability to look after herself. Since that point on my uncle's wife treated her badly. She would watch her diet very closely and makes sure she does not eat any food that she is not supposed to consume. She would also lock my grandmother in her room when she goes to work. Since my grandmother is locked in the room, the only way she could relieve herself would be the little chamber pot she was given my her that oh-so-good daughter-in-law.
Not only that, my grandmother was instructed to clean up the chamber pot on her own after she was 'released' from the room. Every night before they slept they would also tie her up because she got the tendency to get up in the middle of the night and walk around when people are asleep. Since she can't really walk properly they are afraid that she might trip and fall. If I am not wrong this went on for about a year.
At the beginning of this year, my grandmother had a fall at home and was hopitalized for like a month or so. During that period my father's side of the family often had meetings on what they should do to my grandmother. Being nice and all, my mother volunteered to look after my grandmother so after she was discharged they sent her to my house.
That weekend that she came over to stay her sons and the daughter-in-law she used to stay with came to visit. Well, a good way to put it is visit but actually they were there to sign an agreement.
Since my mother was looking after my grandmother, it is only fair that they fork out some money as well to give my mother so that she could purchase the diapers for my grandmother, bring her to the doctor etc. So they signed an agreement on the money each of them should give to my mother. However what really pissed me off was the other long letter that my that uncle's wife had written.
She hand-written out a letter starting all the way from like what 1996? In it was how much my grandmother was given each month from the government, how many jewerlery she has, how much they spent on her since she had Alzheimer etc.
When I saw that, I was like cursing in my heart. What the fuck does she want? Let everyone knows how much effort she has put into looking after my grandmother since the past? Let everyone knows how transparent she is with the money? Hello, we don't need all these. We all know how you have been treating her and all! We are not blind!
Anyway, when my grandmother first came we didn't tie her to the bed at night or whatsoever because my mum feels that it is very cruel to do so. When my grandmother tried to get up from her seat with the help of the walking aid and all, my mother would stop her and explained to her that it is not safe and all. However things seem to worsen.
When my relatives asked my mother how it was going looking after my grandmother. She voiced it out. And the only answer she got from them was you need to be fierce to her, scare her. If she still doesn't listen then do what you have threaten. So with no choice my mum had to tie her up.
If you think that is all then you are wrong. My grandmother just won't listen. She would try to get up from her seat, the wheelchair and worse pee on the floor. Since my mum is the one looking after her she had to clean up her mess.
Just what wrong has we done to her?
Whatever it is I just can't be bothered seriously but I just can't stand her saying my parents are bad guys and worse that we are cruel. For goodness sake, we were FORCED to tie her. She even said that her that oh-so-good daughter-in-law don't tie her up. Just what the fuck does she want?!
If her that oh-so-good daughter-in-law is that good then why don't she just voice out that she wants to go back to them? They would be SOOOO glad to take her back. If she really feels that daughter-in-law is so good why is it when my mother says that she will call them to bring her back she rejected?
This just so gets on my nerves. Seriously.
Since she came over and stayed things hasn't really been going well for my family. My sister and father who is like the healthiest among the family fell sick. My father changed job and his current job is at risk again. My sister's laptop crashed twice. My gastric and knee is getting worse that now I have to see the gastro specialist once every two weeks for check-up and praying that I won't need to undergo the scope.
Maybe all these are just coincidence but I really don't know.
I know I am biased towards my paternal grandmother but seriously I can't bring myself to talk to her or whatsoever. I am simply just not close to her...
Now my maternal grandmother whom I am close to and love so dearly is hospitalized. She was sent into the hospital last night for continuous fever and the doctor said that she has lung infection.
Just when will the bad luck ends and the good luck start coming???
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